Returning from my institute, that day there was something sucking me in my stomach- the feeling was so bad, nausea.As I sat in the bus and read the message again, ' I don't think each of us need us anymore.juz carryon'. We are together for the past 2years, I never had any doubhts about our relation......................

people are faced with mixed feelings, including shock, anger, guilt, frustration, sadness, even fear.when change occurs at different rates and directions, people grow apart and find no reason to stay in a relationship.When this happens, consider it as a part of a process.

where do u talk:

best places to have "the talk" are both public but fairly private, with a convenient escape route.

walking at a park,restaurants. don't at party or work.

The only thing worse than being dumped is being dumped in front of people you're going to have to see on a regular basis.

Timing Is Everything:
Another key to effective breakups is precise timing. Breaking up at a park gives both your dumpee and you the chance to leave once the deed is done. If you're ending the relationship at a restaurant, do it only after the check has come and you've paid for dinner. (And by the way, if you're about to dump someone, you should DEFINITELY be buying dinner.) There's nothing more horrifying than being dumped and then having to sit around making small talk for another 20 minutes while you're waiting for the check to come.

survive a breakup and avoid trauma:

Don't try to close your mind through denial because no amount of wishing can change things magically. Don't try to numb yourself using alcohol or drugs because other than the health risks, these offer only temporary relief.

understand what caused your breakup. dn't overanalyze:

If that person doesn't want to have a relationship with you, then you shouldn't have a relationship with them.

scientific perception:

Some sociologists point out that males tend to respond to relationship-threatening conflicts by just avoiding them altogether. More concretely put, husbands usually avoid conflicts more than wives. A survey found that females generally have significantly more reasons for breaking up than males did. They were more likely to consider a lack of equity, openness and autonomy beyond the relationship as reasons for the split, while males predominantly accounted for a lack of "magic quality" in the relationship as their primary reason. Turns out that even science can't rule out the inexplicable and often elusive "spark" as a qualifier for healthy relationships.

Take away:Keep your self-respect intact
Put a limit to your heartbreak
Accept the inevitability of change

The next thing that pops up to mind 'can't we be friends':

In the case of divorce, there is a legal process to manage.

Fix yourself first- fill that void with yur hobbies, yur family, yur friends.

When approaching a friendship with an ex, take time to understand your motives for pursuing that relationship. Remember what defines a friendship: conversation, connection, support and mutual interests.don't get close for a revenge that's even more worse.

Make a list of pros and cons to nurturing a friendship with your former partner. Realize that the same reasons that led to the relationship's end may be the factors that make a friendship with your ex unbeneficial. Be prepared to acknowledge the fact that someone who was a critical part of your past may not have a place in your future.

If at any point in the evening your feelings shift to an unbalanced state, stand firm and go home. Set limits on your interaction if necessary to keep the situation platonic and positive.